So, don’t be sad that some of them did not work out. It doesn’t mean you should dismiss them. Some of your connections are just not meant to last. However, they played an essential part in shaping your personality.
Relations, like any other living organism, are a subject to evolution. They are much like us.
Are you the same person every single day of your life?
No. And so aren’t your relationships.
They evolve in line with who you were, who you are and who you wish to be.
In many cases, they are the most accurate reflection of what our real values are; how dedicated we are, how much are willing to fight for things that matter to us. Remember:
It takes more than one person to create meaningful connections.
Despite this, we often find ourselves stuck in relations that are beyond saving. I’m sure some people are way better at recognizing these at an early stage. However, even they had to learn when it is still worth fighting and when to let go.
If you asked my friends, they’d tell you I have no problem to walk up to a stranger and start chatting. But creating long-lasting relationships has always been a tad difficult for me. Therefore, if I decide to dedicate myself to something I hope will last, it’s ten times more painful for me to see it isn’t working out.
When should you say that’s enough?
We have one thing in common; sometimes we spend hours, weeks, if not months wondering why some relations didn’t work out, while the next best thing is passing by, right in front of us.
How many time you’ll reach out to a friend who keeps turning you down?
Yes, sometimes people go through a difficult life phase, so they might distant themselves. I know, I’ve been there. It’s important to recognize these moments and distinguish them from those where there is simply no will to carry on. It’s okay to review your relationships and ask yourself what would happen if you step back.
How much time to do you spend wondering…